World Changers

The Amazing Things That Can Happen When You Show Up Scared

May 17, 2017 | Posted by Karina Rovey

Around school and in my friend group, I’ve been known for having a “club addiction.” That is, I’m somehow involved in over half of the clubs my school has to offer. Now, I’m not saying that’s always necessarily a good thing (I often find myself over-committed). But I do believe that my involvement has expanded my relationships with others.

It has also pushed me to be a better all-around student, leader and friend. And though it required bravery and going out of my comfort zone, it really only required one thing: showing up.

Over time, I’ve realized that there’s a certain truth to the saying “80% of success is showing up.” And that applies to clubs, school or church functions, sports, volunteer opportunities, you name it.

After all, the moment you decide to attend that club meeting or go to that football game you’re already a step ahead of those who are still at home sitting on the couch.

Sometimes, showing up can push you out of your comfort zone. Especially in cases where you don’t know the people at the event or what it will be like. But though it can be scary, in the end that’s what builds confidence and relationships. I can’t count the number of good friends and mentors I’ve met in clubs or groups I wasn’t totally comfortable with yet.

For example, during my freshman year of high school, I was very interested in a club called Best Buddies. The club pairs students with those with mental disabilities. The problem was, I didn’t know a single person in the club.

When it came time for the first meeting, I was terrified. I ended up staying for a just a little while. Then I frantically texted my mom to come pick me up. I felt awkward because I didn’t know anyone there.

Originally I was uncomfortable with seeming like a “loner” or not knowing what to do with myself. However, I told myself that I needed to just put myself out there and go for it, even though it scared me.

So, I continued to show up to the meetings. Sure, I still felt a little out of place for a while. But gradually I began to meet new people, make friends and truly have fun.

Today, Best Buddies is one of my favorite activities I’m involved in. In fact, next year I will hopefully be the president of my school’s chapter. Those butterflies in my stomach at the very first meeting ended up being not so bad, after all.

Naturally, you probably won’t have that kind of experience with everything you show up to. Some things you just might not like. (Like when I decided to play flag football). And that’s okay. But at least you tried it and know what the experience is like for the future. Plus, it might make for some laughs down the road. “Eesh, can you believe Karina played flag football?”

As the pop culture saying goes, “Y.O.L.O.,” or “You Only Live Once.” Now, that doesn’t mean I’m telling you to go do whatever crazy stuff you want. Nevertheless, I am telling you to take a chance.

Try something you’ve never done before. You might love it. And if not, well then hey, you gave it a shot. If you never try you’ll never know. In the words of Mark Twain, “Why not go out on a limb? That’s where the fruit is.”

So go ahead, reach out for that fruit. Scare yourself a little. Opportunities are everywhere: at school, church and in your community.

This summer, I’m going to an overnight camp in a place I’ve never been with people I’ve never met. And to be honest, I’m a little scared. But you know what, that’s a wonderful thing. I’m so excited to see where it leads.

Karina Rovey
Hi there. I’m Karina and I’m a sophomore in high school from Tennessee. I love Jesus, acting, playing guitar and traveling with my family. I am honored and excited to be a part of the World Changers team!